Resend Autoresponse after Update .. IF

I am having difficulty with the hook  frm_to_email working with the autorespond on update feature.

I would like to send an autoresponse email on update but only when the “Send Email” radio button is selected.

I tried


add_filter('frm_to_email', 'stop_the_email', 20, 3 );
function stop_the_email($emails, $values, $form_id){
if(isset($_POST['item_meta'][197]) and $_POST['item_meta'][197] != 'Send Email')
return array();
else
return $emails;
}

The autoresponse upon update sends no matter what I select in field 197.

So I tried to unselect autorespond on update in the form settings menu and added


add_action('frm_after_update_entry', 'send_email_now', 20, 2);
function send_email_now($entry_id, $form_id){
if($form_id == 7)
FrmProNotification::autopresponder($entry_id, $form_id);
}

The result was a frozen screen with no emails. What am I doing wrong here?